About the author
Fiona Lowe has been a midwife, a sexual health counsellor and a family support worker – an ideal career path for an author who writes novels about family and relationships. A recipient of the prestigious USA RITA award and the Australian RUBY award, Fiona’s books are set in small country towns, feature real people facing difficult choices and explore how family ties and relationships impact our decisions. Fiona spent her early years in Papua New Guinea where, without television, reading was her best form of entertainment – inevitably leading to a lifelong love of books. Fiona Lowe lives in Western Victoria. Visit her website to find out more.
Words // Fiona Lowe
For me, motherhood is best summed up by the statement ‘children take you to places you never expected to go (and often without a compass!)’.
The first time I was in uncharted territory was trying to build a train set and make it into one continuous loop. It just about did my head in, as did a lot of Lego. But over the years, I got quite good at construction.
The day I found myself in a Mexican standoff arguing with a two-year-old about potty training was a defining moment. Sometimes if the kid’s not in danger, the best option is to step away. The moment I gave up, he started using the potty. It was a lesson I had to relearn over and over. Another was ‘some days just give up what you’re trying to do and go play with them’. Magic moments abounded when I did that…and then I’d forget and need to learn it all over again.
When one son, at 12, got an iPod and filled it with classical music I had a ‘where did this kid come from?’ moment. Over the years, he’s introduced us to a completely new music scene. Although I’ll never be an opera fan, I have a new appreciation for the Romantic composers.
Before kids, I was heard to say, ‘No kid of mine is doing calisthenics and I will never sew sequins.’ Number two son was dancing from when he could walk and I did sew sequins once or twice.
One of the best never-expected-to-go places was swimming with a whale shark. I wasn’t keen but I also didn’t see the point of spending eight hours on a boat while the boys did the swim. Being in the water metres away from this giant fish was one of the most amazing moments of my life.
So, take the journey with your kid(s) and embrace the shark-infested waters and the swamps, because you just never know when you’ll find yourself on top of the mountain sharing the vista. It’s worth it every time.